A Couple in Anger Management
I've often been told not to let both members of a couple into an anger management class. Well, last night, I did. It was particularly convenient that they were the only ones to show up. Both of them took responsibility for their actions and sincerely wanted to relate to each other without going ballistic.
After working through the incidents that brought them to anger management class, I assigned them homework--maintaining an anger journal and sharing the entries with each other during a cool period. Both agreed to listen non-judgmentally to the other and to not attempt to justify the behavior being written about. Both promised to use this as a window into understanding their mate.
I have high hopes for them.
posted by Elderbear at 9:58 PM
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I have a couple I have been working with for a number of months in therapy, and have contemplated using the Anderson Model for Anger Management with them.
After reviewing your article, I think I may start introducing the concepts into our current sessions and offer the training to them.
-- Wanda
I'm curious if other Anger Management providers using the Anderson & Anderson model allow couples in their classes. If you do, what criteria do you use to ascertain appropriateness of the couple for class participation? Do you decide on a case-by-case basis?
I work with a lot of couples in my marriage and family therapy practice and so many of the skills in the Anger Management program are needed in these interventions: communication skills, stress management, emotional intelligence and anger management.
When it comes to the Anger Management classes, it has been of great concern whether to allow the members of a couple to participate together. I know not to have couples in any therapeutic setting together if there is any indication of domestic violence (even if not physical, but some/any pervasive form of intimidation and control).
I have just this week received requests from three couples to attend classes together. Has anyone tried a "couples focus" anger management class, and how has it worked?
Any responses to my e-mail or comments on my blog would be appreciated.
Thank you.
Laurie Brumfield, Certified Anger Management Facilitator
topebrum@sbcglobal.net
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